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Good Bye Foster Care

11 Nov 2014

Truth & Foster Care

In a month in a half I will be aging out of the state foster care system, moving to a new state and attending a new university. I am not sure how I should feel. For the journey in foster care wasn’t an easy one but the state of CT foster care system became my parents. They raised me!

I guess in a way I feel institutionalized, I’ve always had health insurance, a place to stay (foster homes, shelters and group homes), and social workers. I will now have to pay co-pays for my medication, continue my education, afford my education; find housing on my own, and manage a job, school, church and mental health.

Life in 23 years has taught me to have a voice, advocate for myself, knowing that it’s okay to cry, my history has made me victorious and not a victim. I have not always had a stable family for support, I mean, my family did what they could; my biological mother tried and I have every right to hate her and my family for allowing me to get hurt and leaving me in a state system, but, it’s not how I am going to start my journey as a young adult and it wasn’t meant to be any other way.

I can’t believe it, I’ve survived and have successfully aged out of the the CT’s foster care system! No more court dates, family visits, worrying about living in group homes and foster families. It feels great. I feel freedom. I feel joy. I feel fear.

I am moving to another state (Florida) and attending Palm Beach Atlantic University. I have a new found responsibility of taking control of my life. I feel a release and a breakthrough from my past, my family, organize religion and labels. I’m starting over and free to live a life worth living for. I know my fears will subside and I will find my balance. I’ve been given the experience and support to make it.

I’m just excited to leave, and I hope when I am traveling to college that I see a sign that says:

Welcome Domenia L. Dickey to West Palm Beach, Florida and Palm Beach Atlantic University.

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My style

26 Sep 2014

Truth & Foster Care

God is not hate. God is not discrimination. God is a teacher, father, friend and helper. We are given freedom and freewill to dream, love, experience joy, discover true happiness the ability to laugh, hope, rights to fellowship freedom and JOY! This is the God that I serve. My universe! My higher power.

We have the strength, and if we are determined we will discover true peace; peace that surpasses all understandings.

United we stand together we can!

Love yah!

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Be Encouraged

25 Sep 2014

Truth & Foster Care

Sometimes it feels like there is a question that you have yet to answer. We are wondering and trying to find the idea of self. I know I get discouraged feeling as if I am in limbo waiting. I hear the opinions of others concerning my life and everyone is telling me different paths to take. When what I really need is for someone to listen and to be a support as I set my own path/course of direction.

Trust yourself! No one knows you (besides God) better. You matter, and your life is worth living. You are loved and you are the kings (God) beloved. You have a voice and I ask you to use it. You have what you need.

I want to encourage your heart and speak to your mind words of peace, faith, love and hope. No matter your age, health, sex, sexual orientation, economic status or education you have a life worth living and it’s not over until God says so. It’s not over until you take your last breath and are in front of the highest God.

Don’t let your dreams stay dreams. Wake up and make something happen. A psalmist said once that it’s going to be hard; it will be dark but look to the sky for you are closer to your destination than you were yesterday.

God is limitless and created you with a mind to think limitless. This world is yours for the taken. Change your life and change the world.

I dare you to live life on purpose!

Love yah! Domenia L. Dickey

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Your Journey!

31 Aug 2014

Journal Style!, My Story, Topic Thought.
I will say this until the day I die: “We (you) do not live our lives just for us. “ When you find who you are, your calling, gift, talent and truth, master it. Master it so that you can give it back to the universe and help heal and help another individual. :We are spiritual beings having a humanistic experience.” -Pastor Paula White Who you are is already inside of you. We just fail at listening and being in tune with our individuality.

Sometimes you have to put the needs of others and your jobs on the counter and spend time with YOURSELF and listen your spirit is connected to a powerful energy source (God) who has something to say. There is an answer for your questions and a pathway to discover who you are, and your destiny.

Don’t live based on what others say you are. STOP listening to what people think about you especially those who don’t know who you are or you’re true potential. You have gifts and talents that you are not aware of. You are more than the job you have, you are more than the money in your bank account, and you are more than your education. We are spiritual beings having a humanistic experience.

Before we can help others, we, have to want help ourselves grow and change; end excuses and stop blaming others for what we do and who we are. I was raped; abused, neglected, homeless had nothing. I remember not having a coat for winter in foster care and not a family member to reach out to but I don’t allow my story to be my hindrance. I am 23 in college creating a better me, so that I can help another young girl in foster care and youth around the nation, around the world.

You can do it! No excuses why you can’t. There have been adults and children all around the world without education, illnesses and diseases; parentless, poor and some are missing their limbs but are changing history. Each one Reach one!

What can you do to create a better you? Steps that I think that are important are:
1. Start asking the question: Who am I?
2. Sit down with yourself; think about your life, and your journey.
3. As yourself: What has caused me great pain and how has it (negatively and positively) impacted my life? Pray and talk to God (or whomever you believe in) Cry, scream, yell, jump for God knows your journey. Not everything bad is sent by God but it all can be used by God to create!
4. Am I ready to make a change? Do I want to change?
5. What does change mean to me?
6. Realistically how can I start to make a change?
I’m praying for you! You got this!
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